During one of my rehabilitation sessions at the hydrotherapy pool, I struck up a conversation with an elderly gentleman.
The conversation quickly moved onto the reason why he was at the pool and how he had sustained his injuries.
It’s not always a bike or car accident that can leave a person struggling to be the person they once were.
Situations vary from person to person, and in his case, it was frim having a lung removed so he could continue with life.
The first thing I thought of was either cancer or a smoking related illness. But it was neither. It was all to do with taking very regular flights for business. He suffered a severe blood clot during a flight and the flight was diverted to the closest airport so he could be transferred to hospital for emergency surgery.
The surgery changed his life dramatically, but he never gave up. He would continue to push through the physical and mental pain to get his life back on track. And he did, using yoga and hydrotherapy.
He then said PMA.
The blank expression on my face told him I had no idea what the TLA (Three Letter Acronym) meant.
Positive Mental Attitude.
I nodded and understood.
Physically we can get over many bodily breaks and injuries, but without the right positive mental attitude, we will never fully heal.
Mind over matter is not just a saying, it’s a fact. I know this from experience. But, you need to want to heal. Without that want, the chances of a full recovery are much lower.
Always try to keep a positive attitude, and you will see the difference. Trust me on this one.
Stepping off the train at Southern Cross station as i headed to work, and taking in a perfect sight.
It makes me grateful for what I have, and what I never lost.
Enjoy every moment you have, you never know when your last moment will be.
As the train departed the platform, a young lady sat down in the seat beside me. She smiled and I went back to reading my magazine.
As more passengers boarded at the next station, a young gentleman approached the the lady sitting next to me and said hello. She smiled and responded and went back to scrolling through her iPhone.
He then asked if she was going to work or uni, and she once again politely replied she was heading to uni, and left it at that.
At this point I thought they may have known one another, but the next few questions made me shelve that logic.
He asked if she had a boyfriend and then if she was living at home. Her replies were more blunt and it was obvious she didn’t know this guy from a bar of soap.
The next question had me doing a double take. He asked how much rent she paid. Her response was that it was a personal matter. He nodded and moved away and got off at the next station.
Once he was off, she looked at me, shrugged, smiled and went back to her iPhone.
It’s times like this that we shouldn’t talk to strangers.
Nonetheless, a very interesting way to start my day, to say the least.
As the days, weeks and months all slowly slipped by, my rehabilitation continued to become more intense as did all my exercise sessions.
With each passing week, I found I was able to move a little easier and my days weren’t filled with pain and my body was recovering. Slowly, but nonetheless recovering.
So as I continued my journey to full recovery, I continued to look for the light at the end of the tunnel. But no matter how much I think I had progressed, the tiny pin prick of a light never seemed to get any bigger.
It was then I was told I should look back through the weeks and months and see how far I had really progressed.
So as I looked back over my shoulder, I could see a tiny light, way back in the distance. It was where my rehabilitation journey had begun. It was just as far as the light in front of me, where I was heading.
The hardest part of any journey is the middle part. You are far enough from your starting point, and just as far from your destination. Frustrating, but you know you are heading in the right direction.
It’s times like these where you need to be a ‘bit of a mongrel’ and attack the last part of the journey with guts and determination. It’s going to be the only way to make it through the tunnel and out to the other side.
I know the my own journey still has a long way to go, but I do know what awaits me when I eventually arrive at my destination.
We all need to set our sights on that pin prick of a light at the end of the tunnel. And we can do that with the help and support from the people around us, who want us to get out of the dark tunnel.
With every passing day, we see ourselves and the people around us a little differently. Some good, some bad, and some indifferent. But we continue on our journey, through life, not always certain how it will turn out.
We owe it to ourselves to alter the path of our journey to ensure we keep smiling and stay happy. And with happiness on our side, we have a better chance of a happy ending. One we can take all the way to the grave.
From the cradle to the grave, our choices are not always our own. In our younger years we rely heavily on our parents, as they guide us through our childhood and into our teenage years. Even then our parents are there for us, if we want them or not. But they are there, because of the love they have for us, which is sometimes displayed in some very strange ways at times.
Then as the years continue to slide by and we enter our senior years, we then rely on our children to ensure we are safe and looked after as our health declines.
It truly is the circle of life. So within that circle, we need to embrace all we are given and take every opportunity live a full and happy life.
The real purpose of life is to be happy and we should do all we can, everyday to achieve that goal.
Some things slip through our fingers when we least expect them. It’s after the event we realise how much of a missed opportunity it really was.
We can’t go back and relive what we missed out on, but we can make amends by having another go at the opportunity which slid past us at a rapid rate of knots.
Some of the missed opportunities we can only blame ourselves for, while others are taken away, leaving us with a longing for what we missed.
This was the case earlier this year for me, a trip to Europe, starting in France and then through to Italy to visit family. But, due to a negligent driver, my trip was cancelled due to injuries incurred, and so were my dreams of sipping coffee and eating freshly made croissants in the very heart of Paris.
Just because I missed out on this opportunity, it doesn’t mean it won’t happen in the future. All that’s needed is some spare time and holiday planning.
So when an opportunity is missed, it’s not the end of the world. Get up and have another shot at it. We only live once and deserve to be happy, and to make the most of every moment.
Don’t wait, enjoy life, it may be taken away in the blink of an eye.
With so many ways to stay in touch with people, we are never more than the click of a button or a dial of a number to communicate with a friend, locally or internationally.
But even with so many friends, there are times when we feel so alone. No matter where we are or who is around us. It’s a state of mind.
There is nothing wrong with feeling afraid in times of solitude, it makes us human. And human frailty is what defines us in this world.
It’s ok to be afraid to be alone. But don’t let that fear stop you from making the most of that time. Sit back, relax and take the time the see what’s really happening in your own little world. You will be surprised at what you discover about yourself, and others.