Unguarded moment 


There are times in our lives when it’s so hard finding inspiration, no matter what we are doing or attempting. And when the inspiration fails to surface, we are sent into a downwards spiral of anger, frustration, and sometimes depression.


It is at that time when we are at a low point in our lives, we have an unguarded moment. And at this point we can be found in a huddled in a corner, sobbing hysterically and rocking ourselves on the floor, trying to regain some composure in our lives.


But the composure and sanity we seek does not always happen right away, and in some cases it doesn’t happen for what may seem an eternity.



When we find ourselves in that unguarded moment, it seems that no matter what people say, we can, and normally take it to heart and become offended by their words, and sometimes even their gestures.


What may have been a light-hearted comment, ends up turning your world upside down untill you eventually realise there was no malice intended.


This is the point where we need to sit down and sort out whatever is going on in our minds and either get over what was said, or put it into a box and to sort once we have moved out from our unguarded moment.


Until we have a clear mind and are out of the shell we placed ourselves into, we see the world in a completely different light. And that light is usually a dark shade of black.



No matter what we think, there is always someone to lean on or talk to; family, friends, or even a professional who is happy to listen, and offer some advice. Even if they don’t offer advice, it’s always good to have a chat and get a few things off your chest. This way, that unguarded moment can be left behind and the world will be a better place.


At least until the next unguarded moment crashes back onto our lives.


The simple things in life

From the delights of sharing a simple meal with friends all the way through to sitting on the beach with a loved one and watching the sun set over the calm waters. Watching the sunrise is just as spectacular, but there is the fact you do need to be out of bed rather early. 


The more I look at life and all it has to offer, it becomes very obvious that the simple things are the ones that make us the happiest.

It’s these very simple things that make life worth living.

What makes us happy? To hear words of love and affection from the people who are closest to us.

‘I love you’ are the three little words that make life special to all of us, no matter how hardened we think we are. They make us smile, even if that smile is an internal one.

Tell someone you love them today, as tomorrow is never promised.

And what if you don’t love them? It’s best they know that as well.

What makes us happy?


There are times in my life when I have no idea what makes me happy, so I have even less of a clue when it comes to making others happy.

So, does buying a new and updated phone, a new road bike that weighs less than my furry cat or an item of clothing or piece of jewellery put a smile back on my dial and make me happy? And for how long would any of those items keep me happy?


It’s not that I don’t want a new phone that has all the bells and whistles and does everything except make me a cup of coffee every morning. Or picking up a better bike equipped with the best parts that money can buy. A full Shimano Dura-Ace Di2 electronic drivetrain, Aeolus 3 D3 Disc and carbon wheels.


I’m all for that. But in the end, does it bring true happiness? The answer is simple. It doesn’t. At least not for the long term, and that’s the sort of happiness we need in our lives. I know its not only what I need, but it’s what I want.


Although, finding that happiness is like finding a needle in a haystack. We just need to keep trying. 

Hitting a target

Hitting a target is something we all want in our lives. No matter what we think, we all have a target we want to achieve or surpass. 


A goal weight,  a personal best on the bike or on the track, a better weight on the bench press. Or even a new top score on Pac Man. They are all achievable targets if we set our minds to the task.


But then, should we always be shooting for new goals and targets? Are we settling our goals too high? And are we setting ourselves up for failure?


Perhaps every so often we should go with the flow and take it easy and cut ourselves a break. We can’t always be at our very best, no matter how hard we try.


So when we see an opportunity to do what we enjoy, sports or play we don’t need to bust a gut to get another personal best.

Enjoy the moment when you can, as it may not always be there.

You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone 


Every day we get out of bed and expect everything to be the same. Even if not exactly the same, something that resembles what we had and what was around the previous day, the previous month or even the previous year.

It takes a major event to change the way we are or the way we see and things. To see that things have changed dramatically and we had no say in what occurred. We have had something taken away from us without our consent.

The ‘thing’ taken away from us may not necessarily be a physical item, one which we were able to hold in our hands and look at, and feel when we needed.

It’s sometimes easy enough to head down to the local mall and pick up a replacement of what was taken. And if the local shops don’t have what we want, there is always internet shopping. That has all we want, and so much more.


And then there are times that what is taken away from us is either in our mind, or part of our spirit. And these are the things that are difficult or near impossible to replace or replicate. No shopping mall or internet bargain basement can help us replace what has been taken away.

This is the time in our lives when we need to dig deep and pull out all stops to at least try and get back what’s long gone. This may take a day, a month, a year. Or longer still.


Personally, I hate knowing and feeling I am missing something that I always had, and something I worked hard to get and maintain.

But in the past nine months my fitness level has slipped to a point where I hate the person who put me in this position. Not that I had a choice in the matter. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time.

So now it’s a long uphill battle to get back to where I once was. Some days I can see where I am heading as clear as daylight. And other days the waters are murky and the uphill battle is a physical and mental struggle.


I know there is no quick fix and what I need to do will take more time than I want to allow, but, this is another choice I have little say in. Even with daily rahab it’s tough going. And this is where I will do all I can to regain my lost ‘thing’. No matter what! 

This song just makes sense. Enjoy. 

Rediscovering Happiness 


Happiness is something different to each and everyone of us. To some it’s the smell of freshly brewed coffee in the morning, and knowing the taste will be just as good as the scent wafting throughout the house. To others happiness is the feeling of sitting at the departure lounge of an airport, waiting to board their flight and head off to their next holiday vacation. A destination where they will explore, discover and return home with a head full of happy memories and a yearning to start the next adventure.


And then to another group of people, where happiness is defined on the amount of kilometers they clocked up during their last ride. The speed they traveled at and the amount of PBs they cracked along the way. There is also the comradery they shared with the other cyclists during their journey. Some familiar faces, and some new ones added to fray during the ride.


But no matter what makes us happy and how ecstatic we are during, and after the event, how long does that rush really last? A day, a week, a month, or sometimes longer. But then after the euphoria has long left our system, where are we and how do we really feel?


Is there something missing from our lives? Or can we soldier on and continue to relive those memories and continue to be happy? Or do we need more than a cup of freshly brewed coffee, a vacation or even a bike ride to stay happy? That’s something each and everyone of us needs to work out, and keep on that path of happiness.

Many times the key to happiness is not with what we own, what we do or where we go. Our own happiness starts and ends with us, and only us. Even though we may look at others in our lives to help us achieve our true happiness, we need to look deep into our hearts and minds to discover, or in some cases, rediscover what makes us smile and keeps us happy.


We need to search, and find the key that will unlock the treasure trove that holds what makes up truly happy. Not an impossible task, just a tough one for many of us.


But then, this is more often easier said than done, because we are afraid of what we might find in our hearts and minds when we go searching for happiness.

Take the plunge and go on that magical discovery tour for happiness. There is nothing to lose and so much to gain.

Brave Face

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There is the face we show the world. And another we keep hidden and only see when we look in the mirror to see it staring back at us.

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We tend not to show the world and the people around us how we feel. On the outside we are bright and bubbly, always quick with a joke and ready for a laugh.  But beneath the facade of happiness lies a another part of us we keep hidden.  A part of our lives we dread to show the world.

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We keep our inner selves so well hidden at times, that even we truly have no idea of what lies beneath.  We are so afraid to let our feelings show, we keep pushing them into the furthest crevices of  our minds until we think they can never rise back and bother us.

But in time they will rise to the surface, and it will happen when we least want them back.  But they are there. Waiting for the right moment to make a reappearance into our lives and bring us crashing back down to terra firma.

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Keeping our emotions buried deep will only make it harder to accept the real facts when they eventually surface. We need to drag them out form the darkness before they really do ruin our lives completely.

We can’t continue to dodge a bullet. And that’s exactly what our inner feelings are. A bullet with our name on it. So before the bullet is shot, we need to release it from the gun barrel and let it drop, before it takes us down.

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As much as we think we can beat our inner demons alone, there is a much better chance of succeeding if we share the burden.  And that in itself is the harder layer, acknowledging we have a real problem.

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Don’t do it alone, a problem shared is a problem halved.

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