When we wake up everyday, we don’t expect or anticipate to go out into the world and cause havoc and heartbreak to the ones close to our hearts. But there are times we do, and we do these wrong things on purpose.
Deep down we feel as if we are doing the right thing, in our minds there is no other option. We have looked at all possible avenues and nothing else shone through. That might actually the case, so we could let it slide, or continue with what we have planned.
We have convinced ourselves that what we are going to do will somehow make things better for us and others around us. Our minds are unable to see another path forward, so we forge ahead with the original plan.
Even while we are executing the very well thought out plan, there is no doubt in our minds it’s all good and the end result is what everyone will want. But what if we had asked for a second opinion before we plunged head first into the deep end.
Our blinkered view may have been exactly that. Narrow and short sighted. But that one thing we never thought about or even considered. Asking someone else if we were really heading down the right for path.
There is no harm in getting a second opinion, it may do more than just save some serious embarrassment, it may keep a very close friendship intact.
But in the end, we all make mistakes we may regret. That’s life.
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never break me. So the saying goes.
Breaking a bone in your body is a very painful experience. It can take between 8-12 weeks to heal, depending on the bone and how badly it was broken. This is something I learnt the hard way.
But when your heart is broken, it’s more like the shattering of a fragile crystal decanter. Tiny slivers of your heart are strewn far and wide, and no matter how hard you search for those broken pieces, there will always be a tiny sliver missing.
It’s that missing sliver that will keep your heart from healing and getting back to its original condition. But in no way does that mean a broken heart can’t be healed.
Admittedly, it may take time, and the right person to administer the right potion to replace that missing sliver. More than the 12 weeks it takes for a bone to heal.
If your heart has been shattered, just know that time will eventually heal it. Be patient, as good things come to those who wait. And the wait is worthwhile.
Perfection is one thing we all seek, even if we don’t admit it to others or to ourselves. We are born to achieve the best we can in the very short time we have on the third planet from the sun.
Then there are times that no matter how hard we try, we fail. And there is no shame in failing, we can’t be perfect. Even when we try for perfection, it’s just out of our grasp.
But then, even when we are striving for perfection, are we doing it for ourselves, or are we trying to please others in our lives?
When we are young we are out to please our parents. In sports, at school and in the way we live our lives. Always trying to make others happy, even though we tell ourselves we are doing for personal goals.
Later in life we are out to please a partner, keeping them happy, making them smile and giving them everything they could possibly want, or need.
This is where we fail. No matter how hard we try we will at some point lose our way, falter, stumble and fall.
This shouldn’t make a big difference in a strong relationship, but at times it does. And this is where we need to once again strive for what we consider perfection.
With all the things we do in our lives, we are bound to make a mistake or two. Or, sometimes a lot more. We can normally let some of our mistakes slide by, while with some others, we need to fess up and take responsibility for what we’ve done.
It’s not always easy to own up to what we have done, but sometimes it’s easier in the long run to dig deep and confess. Rather than keeping it all bottled up and waiting for it to explode deep inside of us, and tearing us apart.
One of the hardest things to do is to admit to a friend or a loved one you have made a mistake that can change everything you have.
The longer it takes to admit it to yourself, and then to others you have screwed up, the harder it will be to get over it and continue making amends.
Take the plunge and own up to your mistakes. It will change your life, And hopefully for the best.
No matter what we do in our lives, we will always have a past. Our past may at times come back and haunt us for the things we did when we were young and foolish.
Other times our past lingers in our thoughts and weighs heavily on our minds. The mistakes we made are exactly that. Mistakes.
We need to forgive ourselves as we are only human and we are here to learn from our mistakes. And that is something we need to do a lot better. But we are slowly learning that we can forgive ourselves.
We are born to make mistakes. To err is human, to really screw things up requires a computer.
It takes longer for us to forgive ourselves than it does for others to forgive us for our blunder. We are much harder on ourselves than our friends and loved ones are.
No matter what we think of ourselves, others see us in a different light, they see all our flaws, but they also see the things that shine bright in us, the things we are unable to see, or don’t want to see. Or are to scared to see.
The past does not dictate out future. We are the only ones who can shape our lives after our mistakes. We can’t turn back time, so let’s live with the future.